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12 Frida Kahlo Quotes to Light Your Soul on Fire

Magdalena Carmen Frieda Kahlo y Calderón was born July 6, 1907… she died six days after her 47th birthday on July 13, 1954. Frida, one of Mexico’s greatest and the world’s beloved painters, is the embodiment of patience, perseverance, and passion. The world responds to her, viscerally. Frida Kahlo quotes, paintings, and likenesses are woven into our collective consciousness.

Our Frida… that’s how many people feel for her.

Frida endured and thrived among numerous challenges that would rock the foundation and resolve of most people. A life of pain, physical and emotional, for sure. 

Twelve Frida Kahlo Quotes to light your soul on fire

But, oh, what a life.

I see pain in her work, I don’t see the tragedy in her. I see something altogether different when I view Frida as the woman. Her life… Oh, what a life! A life of courage… when I see Frida’s work, when I read her journal, the dozen times I watched Salma Hayek’s soul filled portrayal, when I think of Frida, I think of courage.

Courage to be herself, to be unique, and to not give a f—- what anyone else thought about her. An OG savage, so to say. Frida lived her life on terms she decided. Look at her works – look at Las Dos Fridas, for example…. How is she not daring life to try to give her another tragedy to beat her down? Even when her body and circumstances appeared to fail her, she owned every bit of it and put it into tremendous paintings, drawings, and writings.

Without further ado….

Twelve Frida Kahlo Quotes to light your soul on fire

12 Frida Kahlo Quotes to Light Your Soul on Fire

“At the end of the day, we can endure much more than we think we can.”

“There have been two great accidents in my life. One was the trolley, and the other was Diego. Diego was by far the worst.”

“I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me, too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it’s true I’m here, and I’m just as strange as you.”

“I cannot speak of Diego as my husband because that term, when applied to him, is an absurdity. He never has been, nor will he ever be, anybody’s husband.”

“I want to be inside your darkest everything.”

Twelve Frida Kahlo Quotes to light your soul on fire

“The most important thing for everyone in Gringolandia is to have ambition and become ‘somebody,’ and frankly, I don’t have the least ambition to become anybody.”

“You deserve the best, the very best, because you are one of the few people in this lousy world who are honest to themselves, and that is the only thing that really counts.”

“There is nothing more precious than laughter.”
“I am my own muse. I am the subject I know best. The subject I want to better.”
“I don’t give a shit what the world thinks. I was born a bitch, I was born a painter, I was born fucked. But I was happy in my way. You did not understand what I am. I am love. I am pleasure, I am essence, I am an idiot, I am an alcoholic, I am tenacious. I am; simply I am … You are a shit.”
“Feet, what do I need you for when I have wings to fly?”
“Perhaps it is expected that I should lament about how I have suffered living with a man like Diego. But I do not think that the banks of a river suffer because they let the river flow, nor does the earth suffer because of the rains, nor does the atom suffer for letting its energy escape. To my way of thinking, everything has its natural compensation.”
 Twelve Frida Kahlo Quotes to light your soul on fire
If you reside in Phoenix, you have 5 more weeks to visit the Frida and Diego exhibit at the Heard Museum. When I was in town this past Spring I made a visit, greedily, as I was at Casa Azul one week earlier. The exhibit is a fantastic collection of some of her pieces, and Diego’s, and a beautifully curated display of costumes similar in style to what Frida wore. They are not any of her exact wardrobe pieces. Those you can see (including her corsets) in Casa Azul in Mexico City.
Today, on the anniversary of the day Frida died, remember life. Viva la Frida. Viva la vida.
XO, Jennifer
 Frida Kahlo Quotes to Light Your Soul on Fire
Twelve Frida Kahlo Quotes to light your soul on fire

Beyonce Quotes

Who runs the world? Well, as these Beyonce quotes will testify, Beyonce runs her. Here’s some inspiration for pep in your step with a most delicious collection of some things to say to slay your day. All hail Queen Bey!

“I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. I only have to follow my heart and concentrate on what I want to say to the world. I run my world.”

“Thank God I found the GOOD in goodbye.”

“The most alluring thing a woman can have is confidence.”

“Do what you were born to do. You just have to trust yourself.”

“When I’m not feeling my best I ask myself, ‘What are you gonna do about it?’ I use the negativity to fuel the transformation into a better me.”

“Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are.”

“I guess I am a modern-day feminist. I do believe in equality. Why do you have to choose what type of woman you are? Why do you have to label yourself anything?”

“The reality is: sometimes you lose. And you’re never too good to lose. You’re never too big to lose. You’re never too smart to lose. It happens.”

“I don’t like to gamble, but if there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself.”

“The world will see you the way you see you, and treat you the way you treat yourself.”

“It’s so liberating to really know what I want, what truly makes me happy, what I will not tolerate. I have learned that it is no one else’s job to take care of me but me.”

“Never let success go to your head, never let failure get to your heart.”

“If you live your life with kindness and giving other people great energy, that beauty and great energy will come back to you.”

“I always find the inner strength to pull myself up; I was served lemons but I made lemonade.”

Does Beyonce inspire you? How?

XO, Jennifer

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Women We Love | Goodbye Carrie Fisher

What you’ll have of me after I journey to that great Death Star in the sky is an extremely accomplished daughter, a few books, and a picture of a stern-looking girl wearing some kind of metal bikini lounging on a giant drooling squid, behind a newscaster informing you of the passing of Princess Leia after a long battle with her head. ~Carrie Fisher

I think I can find good company with my belief and strong urge to say that 2016 can “suck it.” I’m really trying to be positive, y’all, I am! But, gaaaaaaaaah…. Like a bad relationship I can no longer accept, 2016 and I need to break up. Distance. ANd I had a rather trauma-less year. Politics aside – and whoooooooooah don’t get me started on the politics (this goes far beyond the Grand Cheeto Elect) – 2016 has seen the loss of so many greats. Today, I lost a particularly beloved “hero.” Really, 2016? In addition to David Bowie, Prince, and George Michael, you also mean we have to say “Goodbye Carrie Fisher?” Gaaaah! She was as young as my dad when he died. 60… is young. I lost my aunt two weeks ago to a heart attack, one from which she never regained consciousness. I’m taking this particular loss pretty hard. 

As many Gen X young girls and then their daughters after them, I donned my cinnamon bun buns and long white gown for Halloween and many days before and after. Princess Leia was my first fan girl moment. She was fierce and spunky, if spunky means the ability to strangle the  most hideous Jabba! Badass, more like. Who else could have spewed, “why, you stuck up, half-witted, scruffy-looking Nerf herder” as well as Carrie Fisher? 

No Motive is Pure. Carrie Fisher

As I grew from a little girl to a young woman and on, Carrie Fisher continued to inspire me. I wished I could be as audacious, talented, and full of such brilliant wit as her. Whether captivating me with her sharply insightful novels and stage production or causing me to cry tears of hysterical delight by bringing Gary to her interviews, her genius and talents filled my life.  She was a brilliant author. Postcards From the Edge was, and still is, one of my favorite books AND movies. I’m not only awed by her creative brilliance. Her advocacy for mental illness, in particular bipolar disorder, a condition which I have seen affect my family first hand. 

If you are feeling as forlorn as me, sit down and pull up a cup of tea with me. Here are some of my favorite quotes from Carrie Fisher to share with you:

Instant gratification takes too long.

There is no point at which you can say, “Well, I’m successful now. I might as well take a nap.”

I rarely cry. I save my feelings up inside me like I have something more specific in mind for them. I am waiting for the exact perfect situationand then BOOM! I’ll explode in a light show of feeling and emotion – a pinata stuffed with tender nuances and pent-up passions.

Sometimes you can only find Heaven by slowly backing away from Hell.

Resentment is like drinking a poison and waiting for the other person to die.

There’s no room for demons when you’re self-possessed.

What worries me is, what if this guy is really the one for me and I just haven’t had enough therapy yet for me to be comfortable with having found him.

There are two things that I know for certain guys are good for: pushing swings and killing insects.

It’s important to be able to distinguish the difference between a problem and an inconvenience.

I feel I’m very sane about how crazy I am.

Stay afraid, but do it anyway. What’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait to be confident. Just do it and eventually the confidence will follow.

Youth and beauty are not accomplishments. Carrie Fisher

As for saying having to say “Goodbye Carrie Fisher,” “I’d just as soon kiss a Wookie.” But, it’s not up to me. 

I don't hate hardly ever. And when I love, I love for miles and miles. Carrie Fisher


Yes All Girls
Happy birthday to Malala Yousafzai!

Few have been able to stand up to the Taliban and live to talk about it. Fewer still when by way of a survived murder attempt. And to recall the horrible ordeal without bitterness and anger.

Malala wants, for her 19th birthday, today, for us to all say #YesAllGirls.

Disadvantaged girls in poor countries are disparately under educated; 80% of girls in disadvantaged status do not complete lower secondary school. If they receive primary education, at best, that is the most they will come to learn. Since Malala was able to turn her survival into a global platform, education for girls is now a global agenda.

Image via Conde Nast
We will not accept a world where decisions about our future are made in rooms girls cannot enter.” ~ Malala Yousafzai

Gate C22 | A Poem by Ellen Bass

This poem by Ellen Bass is just delightful and irresistible!

At Gate C22 in the Portland airport
a man in a broad-band leather hat kissed
a woman arriving from Orange County.
They kissed and kissed and kissed. Long after
the other passengers clicked the handles of their carry-ons
and wheeled briskly toward short-term parking,
the couple stood there, arms wrapped around each other
like she’d just staggered off the boat at Ellis Island, 
like she’d been released from ICU, snapped
out of a coma, survived bone cancer, made it down
from Annapurna in only the clothes she was wearing.
Neither of them was young. His beard was gray.
She carried a few extra pounds you could imagine
her saying she had to lose. But they kissed lavish
kisses like the ocean in the early morning,
the way it gathers and swells, sucking
each rock under, swallowing it
again and again. We were all watching —
passengers waiting for the delayed flight
to San Jose, the stewardesses, the pilots,
the aproned woman icing Cinnabons, the man selling
sunglasses. We couldn’t look away. We could
taste the kisses crushed in our mouths.
But the best part was his face. When he drew back
and looked at her, his smile soft with wonder, almost
as though he were a mother still open from giving birth,
as your mother must have looked at you, no matter
what happened after — if she beat you or left you or
you’re lonely now — you once lay there, the vernix
not yet wiped off, and someone gazed at you
as if you were the first sunrise seen from the Earth.
The whole wing of the airport hushed,
all of us trying to slip into that woman’s middle-
     aged body,
her plaid Bermuda shorts, sleeveless blouse, glasses,
little gold hoop earrings, tilting our heads up.

~Ellen Bass

The language and the rhythm captivate me and I hungrily read each line.

This piece comes from her volume Mules of Love. Think of literary warm mint green tea with honey. Or Jasmine tea. Comforting, warm, beautiful for the senses.

One after the other, hungry as she is for the words and those kisses. I catch a couple of themes in this poem.  To abandon my concern for how other people view me and to be “me” how I feel I need to be, utterly and completely unselfconscious. To follow my heart to love, deliberately overlooking what I may have previously deemed to be acceptable in appearance and presentation of the vessel bearing the “love.”

Have you ever noticed…. that the word “kiss” actually sounds exactly like a kiss? And I enjoy being staggeringly smitten with someone, someone who can kiss (me) and kiss (me) and kiss (me).  Someone who looks at me with the glory of catching sight of the first sunrise. After all, isn’t this what so many of us want, and seek, and push through the discouragements and heart let downs?

Aah, for the warmth and the light that comes with the break of the sun.

Gate C22 | A Poem by Ellen Bass

To look at the potential for love with a different perspective, to dare to see something, someone from a different angle.

Using a prism to capture the image in a different bend of reality altogether…..