Somewhere on the cusp of Tuesday night and Wednesday morning after the longest 15 hour drive of my life, including a hellacious thunderstorm bordered by tornadoes to the south of where I was driving, Edie and I rolled up to the driveway of my folks’ house in the Swedish Meatball. Three weeks into a six – seven week road trip was cut short by my sobering realization I could not maintain the focus I needed on my final round of edits of my dissertation for my committee to approve and allow me to move on to my defense.

As much as I hate having to miss my niece’s first dance recital and one on one time with my best friend, most definitely not something to enjoy, this was a hard, but right, decision to make. I’ll look forward to getting to Connecticut later in the summer, and then maybe the water will even be warm enough for a swim! Amidst some disappointments, there’s still plenty I found this week to be beautiful.

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Something I’m Listening to…. Chris Cornell – Sunshower

Thursday’s news absolutely gutted me. As were many others rocked by the revelation of Chris Cornell’s unfortunate and untimely death. I feel like all of my idols are being taken away. I listened to this song – as is a frequent repeat on my playlists. If you’re at all feeling what I am, you’ve likely been hitting the Spotify Audioslave, Soundgarden, and his solo playlists all day. Er, weekend? He’s gone, but I can tribute the heck out of his art.

Something I’m Reading…. Modern Love

My obsession with the New York Times’s Modern Love podcast grew into reading the weekly column on the website. I wait, every week, for the indicator on my podcast app to inform me of the next episode. And I wait, every week, for the NYT site to update the newest digital draft to read. Two Modern Loves in any given week. And, when I’m planning a road trip, I’ll hold off on the podcast so I can binge listen to the stories. 

Something I’m Loving…. 

Feminista Jones‘s Twitter, in particular, her cheeky call out and “to piss a man off today” challenge. I feel hopeful more women are speaking up and calling out behaviors and ideologies that need to change. 

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Whatever you are looking ahead to with the rest of your weekend and heading into next week, make it beautiful! As for me, I’m enjoying the empty house while my folks are exploring the northeastern sea shore and riding out four straight days of thunderstorms and tornado watches. Welcome to Spring time in Kansas! There’s no place like “home.”

XO,

Jennifer

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If you want the rainbow, you've got to put up with the rain. Dolly Parton

Like a steamy cup of green mint tea, I can’t think of much else in life that can’t be made better with a dose of Dolly. “If you want the rainbow, you’ve got to put up with the rain.” For the record, I am happy. I am overwhelmed, tired, been sick, and I am really stressed. But fundamentally, I am happy right now. 

I have a lot of work ahead of me but it is all good work. And, surely, many more lost in translation embarrassing exchanges. If you only knew how many stupid things I said this week during all of my butcheries of the Spanish language….. It’s all good.

Where are your rainbows?

Make this one a great one!

XO, Jennifer

And because I am obsessed with Dolly. You’re welcome!

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Today is the final day of the first month in our new year. How are you checking in with your goals? I could be doing better, myself. But I refuse to let me berate and abuse what hasn’t been done (although my personal gap review is long – that’s the inveterate MBA in me speaking). Fact is, when reviewing my own goals check in this morning (yay for insomnia m while my progress is not as fast or far as I wanted, I’ve covered a lot of ground during these past 30 days. I have wins! And not of the tiger blood variety, either. I feel good enough to be encouraged but not cocky.
~My dissertation, all five chapters, is written. Fina-f*cking-Lutely! It’s a hotter mess than my sweat saturated ponytail after a #parytonabike spin class, but it’s written. I’m not saying I haven’t cried during edits. But it’s written!
~I went out on an limb and displayed great vulnerability at the expense of almost painful emotional discomfort in effort to break a haunting pattern. Twice. Wait… three times. In the moment of one particular ignorer of boundaries, instead of my usual pattern of annoyance > frustration > total devolution into emotional anger, I felt unf*ckwithable and held my boundary. Fact is, while a troll doesn’t deserve your kindness, you don’t deserve the emotional fallout of meeting him (or her) at that same level of petty disrespect.
~I relocated and am settling into my new city with lost in translation embarrassments every day.
~I marched in the Women’s March on Washington in my new home city and stood with other US expats among our Mexican neighbors in solidarity. We expected approximately 300 people to show up and march. Over 2,000 US and Canadian expats residing in Oaxaca along with tourists from other nationalities visiting the city who heard of the march showed up and marched with us. It was beautiful.

And there are more. But these… I’m most proud of and I’m not going to let energy spend dwelling on what wasn’t done. I’ll review and reset my priorities for February.

Because we get to start over every month, day, hour, minute. Every breath – in and or out – is an opportunity for a reset. There’s no rule stating when your revolution must begin. Isn’t that beauty-full?

Jack Keruoac - I saw that my life was a vast glowing empty page - goals check inNow, how are you checking in? What are your January wins?

XO, Jennifer

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The truth however ugly in itself, is always curious and beautiful to seekers after it. Agatha Christie quote

Good morning! In context of the need for us all to be truth seekers across all areas of our lives, here are some inspiring words for your day! “The truth, however ugly in itself, is always curious and beautiful to seekers after it.” Oh gosh, though, the truth can hurt. But, ultimately, the pain is less than being seduced, betrayed, and beaten with a lie. Oh, I could use a little bit of Miss Marple in my life right now. What about you?

Make this one a great one!

XO, Jennifer

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“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” Aristotle

I studied Aristotle extensively for my master of education and my PhD. He is regarded as one of the greatest philosophers. Period. Of all time! But I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. So, of course, meet my #ManCrushMonday of this week, Aristotle. Aristotle is generally regarded as the father of Western thought, and if you went to school in the USA, you know his influence from studying the scientific method. Of the Hellenistic philosophers who were so influential in evolving education and civil responsibilities, Aristotle was especially significant in shaping the sciences. Without Aristotle, we would think and live completely differently! That’s kind of bananas blowing up my mind sort of… bananas!!

And to set right this misappropriation of a particularly acerbic quote, the original words are “Those who know, do. Those that understand, teach.” Chest bump to all of my coaches and teachers!

Who is your #MCM?

XO, Jennifer

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